Reddit Hilariously Comes to the Rescue for Woman Who Needs Makeup to Cover Her Areolas

When a Reddit thread begins with “Really weird question…,” we’re immediately intrigued. But when it’s found on Makeup Addiction, and followed with “anybody know how to cover up areolae with makeup??,” there was no question we just found a quarter among pennies. It became a need-to-read thread.

The ask came yesterday from Occasional_Cupcake, a loud and proud showgirl, who needed help covering her areolas for work. She explained her situation and honestly, not only did we feel bad a natural part of her body was getting in the way of her job, but that it seemed she lost hope of ever finding a solution.

“One of the costumes we wear involves pasties. Every girl wears them except me because I have really big areolae and they peek out the sides. My boss sent me home with a pair and told me I’m welcome to see what I can do with makeup to cover them up a little. I played around with it last night and got it really really close but I could still see them 😦 mine are very light colored so I don’t think it’ll be difficult to do I just don’t know how.”

Without a second thought, redditors jumped to her rescue. One user recommended Glamoflauge, a Hard Candy concealer, and shortly after another user confirmed the concealer’s power over nipples. dusklily wrote, “Glamoflauge and red lipstick covered up mine completely ! (Nah I’m not a MUA, just got stoned and curious one day lol)”. There’s nothing better than factual evidence, right?

Other people, who didn’t cover their nipples but did cover acne scars, bruises and tattoos, chimed in with suggestions like Dermablend, NYX green color correcting cream, and Covermark Leg Magic. Someone even recommended watching FX makeup tutorials to ensure there’d be no hints of areola— or makeup work— showing.

The OP edited her original post to let everyone know her coworker was bringing her dermacol to try out, but she’d keep everyone updated with the cover-up progress. Girl, we are waiting!

The Real Reasons Couples Stop Having Sex

New relationships are exciting, getting to know the person intellectually, emotionally and—let’s not forget—physically. At the beginning, you don’t have to deal with downers like meeting each other’s families and shared household expenses—you’re simply enjoying learning more about the other person.

But as we all know, that phase doesn’t last forever. Sure, you probably still have sex, but maybe not at the same frequency as when you first met. The thing is, that’s completely normal and not something to be too concerned about. But why, exactly, does it happen?

New research by DrEd (an online doctor service based in the U.K.), which involved surveying 1,000 men and women from both Europe and the United States, has some surprising answers. And to clarify, in this survey, “sex” wasn’t defined—it was left up to the person responding—and participants included all sexual orientations and identities.

What’s not surprising is that 71.5 percent of couples reported that one of the reasons they don’t have sex is being too tired. Around half of respondents said that work or being too busy in general also keeps them from hitting the sheets.

One aspect of sex that isn’t mentioned frequently is the impact of pain. In reality, it’s pretty significant, with 12.8 percent of people surveyed saying they avoid sex because of some sort of pain. Whether that’s pain directly resulting from penetrative intercourse—common for people who suffer from conditions like vulvodyniavaginismus and vaginal atrophy—or other types of discomfort, like a bad back, knees or arthritis, knowing sex will hurt doesn’t exactly make it enticing.

Other people prefer sex with someone who knows exactly what they want—themselves. The survey found that 9.1 percent of couples don’t have sex because one or both partners prefer to masturbate instead. That’s completely understandable and more efficient, but also not a total deal-breaker because masturbation could be incorporated into sex with a partner relatively easily.

But it isn’t all doom and gloom: There are also many reasons sex in a long-term relationship can be even more satisfying than with a new partner, including being able to be more open with each other about sexual desires and experimenting with new experiences. Better yet, the survey found that the more couples talked to each other about sex, the more sex they ended up having.

Communication really is key regardless of the stage of the relationship, and since it can lead to a more fulfilling sex life, you might as well get that conversation started now.

Originally posted on SheKnows.

Why Some People Find Verbal Humiliation Hot—and How to Try It

For some people, a little dirty talk is just what they need to get in the mood. But for others, this goes beyond partners describing what they will (or won’t) do to them in bed—they’re also turned on by being humiliated. This is something I do professionally.

Verbal belittlement is a consensual psychological form of humiliation that creates a rise in excitement for both the top and the bottom. Erotic humiliation fetishes are the most popular among submissives. This form of humiliation is typically done in private and falls under the BDSM umbrella, meaning a safe word is always recommended. Though they’re typically considered the same thing, humiliation and degradation are actually quite different. Humiliation affects an individual mentally—by name-calling a body part or making fun of someone’s size. Cuckolding, for example, is a form of degradation because it’s a more public act, where the world sees the individual as less than.

Sexual stimulation is often but not always the result of verbal humiliation. The power dynamics built up by two people can mature into a master-slave relationship, top-bottom or a dominant-submissive. Humiliation play is also typically fostering a type of fetish. For example, with a foot fetish, the dominant may instruct that the submissive wash, clean or massage the dominant’s feet while verbal humiliation is occurring. The two linked humiliating acts can cause arousal.

Being a lazy domme, it’s enjoyable for me to strike a fetish without physically striking anyone. I don’t consider myself a dominatrix, but more of a humiliatrix. Men quite literally pay me to be mean to them. I don’t send nude photos. I mostly send (depending on their fetish) photos of my feet, videos of my boots, or simply my face where I demand a certain task for the day.

My submissives don’t talk back to me. I’m not a switch when it comes to verbal humiliation. I enjoy the way the words fall out of my mouth, and I enjoy their reactions. In my personal life, I’m also introducing verbal humiliation into the bedroom—but on a mild, less derogatory level. In my personal experience, men find my videos of hypnosis and verbal humiliation enough for their erotic needs. This is a form of sexual role-play in the BDSM scene and can include financial domination or simply cashing in for custom videos.

So what are some specifics of verbal humiliation? The people behind the website Life on the Swingset explain that “verbal humiliation can mean the use of words like slut or whore; being mocked, ridiculed or have appearance belittled; use of racial or ethnic slurs; asking permission to eat, to go to the bathroom or to have an orgasm; not allowing sub to leave the dungeon or house; treated like a pet or an object; being treated or scolded like a child; made to use honorifics such as Master, Mistress, Sir, Ma’am or Daddy.” Another example would be using demeaning language with the sub either in a forced feminization, a pet play or slave scene.

In my personal practice, I refuse to use racial or ethnic slurs and I steer away from feminizing my clients, as I don’t view being feminine as a derogatory thing. For each individual, these preferences may change but since it is something that I implement into my professional world, I make the rules (quite literally).

Why Verbal Humiliation?

Like with physical pain, humiliation is able to stimulate an area of the brain that also remembers social rewards. Since pleasure begins in the brain, the fantasy of verbal humiliation sparks something arousing in the mind when it’s brought into a scene.

A former University of Toronto psychology student, David de Jong, found that 50 percent of women found talking during sex, particularly talking dirty, to be “either strongly or extremely enjoyable.” Sexual humiliation can be a lifestyle or a BDSM scene. Role-play is a common type of humiliation, which is where language can provide a great environment for your scene. For some people, being inside your mind is a great way to achieve an orgasm, especially when it’s accompanied by another fantasy or fetish. Humiliatrix, Betty Pickles describes it as “the same kind of anxiety rush you get from going on a roller coaster.” It’s sort of awful, but you love it.

How to Try Verbal Humiliation

First, make sure everyone involved is consenting. Ego reduction is a way to achieve humiliation play. Begin with ease—don’t dive into calling your partner every awful name you can think of saying to them. Before you begin, also make sure to create a list of off-limit phrases to ensure everyone is comfortable. It’s difficult to explain what can be humiliating or not, as it varies for each individual. One person’s humiliation fantasy may not be another’s.

I would suggest starting with small talk—quick phrases, humiliating words—just to test the waters in the beginning. If you would like, text your partner or send them short videos to understand your language better before bringing it into the bedroom. Another way to to begin erotic humiliation is to compliment them while embracing them. Like my suggested phrase above, you are stating that they do give you pleasure and they do satisfy you, but their satisfaction is unnecessary.

Basic dirty talk can also be implemented into the scene. Cursing and calling body parts derogatory terms is a way to turn on a submissive. A phrase like, “You’re my toy and my satisfaction is all that matters,” is an easy, not-so-humiliating way to open up the dialogue. Once you understand what your partner wants, you can begin to find words and phrases that turn them on. Moreover, what do you want? It’s important to also arouse yourself by the way the words sound in your mouth. Talking to or scolding your submissive like a child or commanding them to confirm your actions are various ways to be experimental with arousal via language.

Another important characteristic is how you deliver the sentence. Whispering, yelling, growling, laughing and angrily talking to them can change the tone of the entire scene. For many submissives, laughing at their body or making fun of their performance is a great way to give them what they want. Like anything, verbal humiliation takes practice.

Use a thesaurus, learn some phrases, and seek out erotic verbal humiliation. Always make sure to pick up on any cues from a submissive and gauge reactions while also creating a comfort level for yourself. Don’t cross any boundaries and remember to establish a safe word and proper trust between one another.

The more enjoyable you find verbal humiliation, the more humiliating it will be. When you think or worry too much about what should be said, you lose the freedom of speaking fluidly. You’re going to stumble around at first; remember to laugh at yourself too.

Originally posted on SheKnows.

Beauty Products With Borderline-NSFW Names

We’re understandably satisfied when a beauty product actually works, but sometimes, its cheeky name is what really draws us in. The experts tasked with developing clever monikera for our everyday must-haves are among the luckiest in the beauty industry and we have them to thank for making our routines a little more exciting.

With January finally ending (because it felt like forever!) and Valentine’s Day just around the corner, we’re paying a little extra attention to the cleverly-named products with a slightly NSFW twist. From “orgasmic” blush to “dirty” nail polish, these are the sexy finds we can’t wait to whip out and rock fearlessly on February 14 and beyond.

How Being a Cam Girl Helped Me Own My Sexuality

Writing about kinks comes with its perks. I get free sex toys and free lube, and I get to play with all of it. It also comes with temptations.

After researching an article about what the life of a financial dominatrix is like, I began to heavily research this tempting and attractive way of making money. As the writing lifestyle goes, my paychecks are irregular and sporadic. Things get desperate and hustling comes in handy. Once I read a few articles online on how to be a financial dominatrix, I ventured on to Twitter hashtags. If you’re interested, search as follows: #cashcow, #findom, #humanATM.

After some deep investigating, I decided as someone who already leans toward a more dominating personal sex life, I wanted to be financial dominatrix. Kinkly describes a findom as “a fetish that involves being humiliated or demeaned by a financial dominatrix (also referred to as fin-dom), in exchange for money or gifts. It does not necessarily involve sex. It is said to have stemmed from the observations and eventual practice of Miss Marx, a professional dominatrix, who saw how some men get an instant hard-on when handing a woman money. She exploited this reaction, and eventually began a cult fetish.”

I enjoyed the anonymity of being a findom. My identity wasn’t revealed; my family would never know. You humiliate men and demand money, and they get off on watching you empty their bank accounts. My plane ticket to New Orleans was purchased, my rent was paid for one month, and little presents from Amazon were delivered to my door.

However, after a few months, I realized I craved more, more, more. It wasn’t necessarily greed, but more of a temptation to be in control. Somehow, the subs were still controlling me via the internet. Scams, fakes, and a lot of broke men trying to get off on a quick selfie infiltrated my inbox. I decided I was bored with it and definitely not dedicated enough to weed through the clumps of men who pervade the World Wide Web.

Then I started watching the show Hot Girls Wanted: Turned On (not to be confused with the movie). I remember pausing Netflix after the episode “Take Me Private with Alice.” I was hooked—line and sinker—by the flexibility, empowerment and overall exhilaration of the cam girls’ experiences. I immediately closed my tab and opened up another, typing in “Cam websites” in Google. My new endeavor was beginning, and it was going to be hot.

As with many kinks or fetishes that I’m involved in, I begin with research, and that research typically results in a significant amount of intrigue (like when I sold my underwear to strangers). At this point, I’m talking about sex every day of my life. I’m also having sex almost every day of my life. For me, being on camera in the comfort of my home while making money in between writing projects seems natural. My moral compass isn’t skewed. I didn’t and still don’t contemplate the idea that my body could possibly be permanently on the internet. My words are already etched into platforms, publications and websites. I’m here—clothed or naked—and I’m here to stay.

I’m also not naive. I probed, I watched PornHub, I lurked other girls on CamSoda and Chaturbate to be able to understand the interweavings of the very interesting world of camming.

I don’t have a persona for the camera. I don’t dress up. On most days, I’m still in my pajamas, coffee in hand and no makeup on my face. I disclose that I’m a writer and I spend most of my time educating my viewers on sex positions, lube, and safer sex. It doesn’t necessarily seem irresistible, but I found that many of the men on the website are looking for honesty and candidness. When someone types out, “What’s your favorite position?”—which they inevitably will ask—I know they want me to giggle and say, “Doggy style.” However, breaking up that fantasy is a duty of mine. I laugh and say, “Honestly, missionary.

My professional life is spent educating people on sex and sexual health—why not utilize this knowledge in an erotic setting? As a feminist, I’m also not interested in conceding to a misogynistic environment or any type of harsh language. My “room” is a safe space for me and for all 200 of my viewers.

Being on camera has expanded my sexuality, my understanding of my body, and improved my self-esteem by a large margin. Ah, you may think, “It’s all of the male attention.” But instead, it’s the attention that I allow for myself. For someone like me, who spends most of her time talking about her body and what goes in and what comes out, I feel that I have a solid comprehension of what shakes my tree or scratches my itch.

But to my surprise, camming heightened this perspective.

For example, in a private session, I stare at my own reflection on my computer screen. I am literally getting off to my own image—my own body and all of my true self. I see myself from angles that I never see. “That’s me,” I think as I find a new song to sing along to and chat about my newest article that I’m researching with a man who lives in Germany. He’s nice. He tips me. He just wants someone to talk to. He requests that I put on jeans. He types, I talk.

Eventually, I do perform sexual acts. I realize that certain angles help me to achieve a faster orgasm. I text my partner to log on and watch me. I text my partner about what’s going on in the room. I gush about my partner to my viewers. I realize anal play is still not in my personal vocabulary. I decline when someone requests that I put yogurt on my face. I make $200.

Being seated on my bed behind a camera is safe. If someone is aggressive, though this is rare, I decline or report them. There is no upfront confrontation—they don’t exist in my reality—only online.

Only a handful of times has it seemed like work. It’s more a moment for me to connect to my body. Truly finding pleasure in camming for myself is the most important aspect for my personal connection to these men, these strangers, on the internet.

This wasn’t necessarily my ah-ha moment of clarity concerning my self-esteem or my body. But it was more of an addition to my sexual self-discovery, even if the whole world was watching.

Originally posted on SheKnows.